Symptoms include severe headaches, abdominal bloating, water retention, drastic mood swings and tearful spells. There is not much even doctors can do about it. Some gynos prescribe a few pills, vitamins and minerals mainly, but they're useless. It is a purely hormonal phenomenon. In its more severe form it is known as Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder with many symptoms similar to those of unipolar depression. (Dysphoric refers to being unhappy)
There are thousands of us suffering, some of us, with the lesser educated ones, not knowing why they feel so lousy. And lousy it is! We women typically go through irritability, tension or feelings of unhappiness. And there is no reprieve for us. We have to continue doing what we are supposed to be doing, be it at work, or at home, with bosses, with in-laws, with husbands and kids! Men often have very little sympathy with what we go through. Aware men are sweet and sometimes kind but are few and far between. If we lose our temper for instance, we are told rudely you are pre-menstrual, shut up! Or,- You must be pre-menstrual don't overreact.
At times the experience is so severe, that at least I, who am a sufferer, feel rabid. There is no other word for it. I want to be left alone, I don't want to be touched or even spoken to, I just want a really hot aroma bath and want to curl into a ball under the sheets. Little things make me feel like crying, my responses are exaggerated and I am like a wild woman. I am not exaggerating. I cannot bear to even be myself. Sometimes I just want to give out a blood curdling screaaaaam. I feel like going eeeeeeeeeeeeeee.
And most men do not understand. The more sensitive ones might, but the chauvinistic ones dismiss it with a sneer. That hurts. How do you think it feels, when for ten days out of 30, your jeans feel tight or refuse to button? When you have a swollen face because you can't pee? And to resolve that you drink more and more water till your tummy feels tight enough to burst and you feel like a pregnant cow? Some of us have a special pair of bloat jeans, or an elasticated skirt or just float around in a loose salwar kameez. Even a saree has to be tied tightly so sometimes it may not be the answer- or the choli wont fit because of general swelling! It gets worse as you age. I don't remember feeling so awful, as a very young woman.
There is one relief. It is SOS. You take an anxiolytic. That is, an anti-anxiety pill like Restyl in the minimal dose, and it makes you calmer. Otherwise, a scented and chilled eye pillow helps a little, but warms up too quick. You get them at The Nature's Co. at Palladium. Soothing music can always be given a try. Ladies, sisters, be brave, we are brave..... till menopause..... which brings along its own unpleasant syndrome. Sighhh. We often have it tough! And guys...... understand us and support us. We are your moms, sisters, wives, girlfriends and friends! We need the support of our men.
If any of the readers of this article know how to make this phase easier for all, please make your comments!